When Every Answer is ‘No’

I'm a social worker. Half of the kids I work with are 11 year old boys who struggle with anger outbursts due to the trauma, sickness, and emotional pain they've had to experience in their lives. I am the one who works with the family and providers to develop a "crisis plan" so everyone knows what to do to be safe and calm when a potential crisis comes up. The one "trigger" on nearly every single little boy's list is "being told 'no'." I feel ya, kid.